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During the Tang Dynasty, Lou Shide, a censor and later prime minister, was known for his magnanimity. He achieved numerous military victories and was highly esteemed by Empress Wu Zetian.
Once, his younger brother was appointed governor of Daizhou and asked Lou Shide for advice on handling difficult situations.
His brother said, 'If someone spits on my face, I'll just wipe it off.'
Lou Shide, however, advised him, 'No, you should let it dry by itself.' He explained that wiping it off might show resentment, which could escalate the conflict. By allowing it to dry naturally, one demonstrates extreme tolerance and avoids further confrontation, reflecting a philosophy of profound forbearance and patience in dealing with others.