To indulge in self-pity and self-reproach; to regret one's mistakes and blame oneself, often without taking proactive steps to correct them.
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The idiom '自怨自艾' (zì yuàn zì ài) traces its origin to a story from the Warring States period.
Mencius's student, Wan Zhang, harbored doubts about certain historical events and inquired if it was righteous for Yi Yin, the capable prime minister of King Tang, to assist Tang in unifying the land.
Mencius elucidated that after Yi Yin successfully aided King Tang in establishing his rule, he continued to serve and govern the court diligently.
Later, King Tang's grandson, Tai Jia, began to violate the established laws and principles. In response, Yi Yin exiled him to Xiangyi.
After three years, Tai Jia demonstrated genuine repentance and reformed his conduct. Upon witnessing this transformation, Yi Yin welcomed him back to resume his position as king.