To complain about one's fate or circumstances and blame others for one's misfortunes or failures; to be full of grievances against Heaven and mankind.
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Ancient
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During the Spring and Autumn period, Confucius dedicated his entire life to propagating his philosophical and political ideas. Despite his tireless travels and efforts, few rulers or states adopted his principles.
One day, feeling a deep sense of understanding yet also profound isolation, Confucius sighed in front of his disciples. Zigong, one of his most prominent students, asked him why he appeared so contemplative.
Confucius replied, "I do not complain about Heaven, nor do I blame others. I study things that are below, yet I comprehend principles that are above. Perhaps only Heaven truly understands me."
This story, while not directly showing someone "怨天尤人," highlights Confucius's admirable character by showing his refusal to blame external forces or people for his lack of political success, thus providing a strong contrast to the idiom's meaning.