







授受不亲 is a Chinese idiom (chengyu) meaning “referring to the traditional Confucian etiquette that stipulated men and women should not directly hand objects to each other, emphasizing strict segregation between genders”. Literally, “No direct physical contact in giving and receiving between sexes”.
During the Warring States period, Chunyu Kun, a renowned debater from the State of Qi, once asked the philosopher Mencius: 'It is considered proper (lǐ) that men and women should not directly hand objects to each other. But if a sister-in-law falls into the water, is it proper for her brother-in-law to reach out and save her with his hand?'
Mencius replied, 'Yes, that is also proper.'
Chunyu Kun then pressed, 'If everyone in the world were drowning, why would you not save them?'
Mencius responded, 'One should save the world with principles (dào), not necessarily by reaching out a hand in every single instance.'

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Open the tool →授受不亲 (shòu shòu bù qīn) is a Chinese idiom (chengyu) meaning “referring to the traditional Confucian etiquette that stipulated men and women should not directly hand objects to each other, emphasizing strict segregation between genders”.
授受不亲 is pronounced shòu shòu bù qīn in Mandarin Chinese.
Literally, 授受不亲 means “no direct physical contact in giving and receiving between sexes”. It is used to mean “referring to the traditional Confucian etiquette that stipulated men and women should not directly hand objects to each other, emphasizing strict segregation between genders”.
授受不亲 comes from a classical Chinese story dating back to ancient China. The full story is on this page.
授:给予;受:接受。旧指男女不能互相亲手递受物品。指儒家束缚男女的礼教。