què却zhī之bù不gōng恭
It is considered impolite or disrespectful to refuse an offer, gift, or invitation, especially when extended with sincerity.
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Ancient
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Story:
During the Warring States period, Wan Zhang, a student of Mencius, sought his teacher's advice on matters of interpersonal conduct. Mencius stressed the importance of showing respect to others.
Wan Zhang then asked, "To repeatedly decline and refuse a person's gift is considered impolite, why is that so?"
Mencius responded, "When a person of high status sends you something, if you refuse it, that is indeed disrespectful. Therefore, you should accept it."