糟糠之妻不下堂 — “Never abandon your wife who shared hardships with you”

During the Han Dynasty, there was a historical event where Wang Mang (or actually Wang Lang) pursued Liu Xiu. At that time, Liu Xiu's forces were weak and he was chased by Wang Lang, fleeing day and night from north to south. During the conflict, one of Liu Xiu's generals, Song Hong, was unfortunately injured. When they reached Raoyang, Song Hong could no longer walk, and the pursuers were close behind.

With no other option, Liu Xiu entrusted Song Hong to a family named Zheng in Zhengzhuang to recover from his injuries. The Zheng family sympathized with Liu Xiu and were very kind, treating Song Hong like their own family. They provided tea, water, good food, and excellent care. In particular, the Zheng daughter, though not exceptionally beautiful, was upright, intelligent, and generous. She treated Song Hong like a dear brother, preparing herbal remedies and constantly showing concern for his well-being. Song Hong was deeply touched.

Over time, a profound affection developed between them. After Song Hong recovered from his injuries, they got married. Later, Song Hong followed Liu Xiu in numerous campaigns, achieving great military successes, and eventually helped Liu Xiu secure the empire.

After Liu Xiu became emperor, everything went smoothly, except for one concern: his elder sister, who had become a widow years ago, was constantly unhappy. Liu Xiu repeatedly sent matchmakers to propose to her, suggesting one suitor after another, but his sister was never satisfied. Later, Liu Xiu learned that his sister had taken a liking to Song Hong. He thought, "As the emperor, wouldn't this be an easy matter?" Moreover, Song Hong's wife, Zheng, was not only older but also significantly less attractive compared to his sister. So, he sent a messenger to propose marriage to Song Hong on his sister's behalf.

To his surprise, Song Hong replied, "糟糠之妻不下堂" (A wife who shared hardships with me will not be put away/abandoned). When the messenger reported Song Hong's words to Liu Xiu, the emperor was deeply moved by Song Hong's character. Not only did he not blame him, but he held him in even higher regard. From then on, the story of "糟糠之妻不下堂" spread far and wide.